Cooperative not adversarial.
- Both Mediation and Collaborative Divorce use cooperative strategies, rather than adversarial techniques to progress through the Roadmap’s 5 stages . Professionals using both these methods pledge not to go to court. The philosophy is that as much effort should be exerted toward settlement as is traditionally spent in preparing for and conducting a trial.
Thus, in general, both Mediation and Collaborative Divorce cost less in time, money, stress and emotional angst. You control the process.
The process does not control you.
- All professionals use basic dispute resolution techniques which:
- use analysis and reasoning,
- examine differences,
- brainstorm options for self and other,
- negotiate and solve problems , and
- in general create a “common ground” environment where the outcome is “win-win” for both of you.
- Coaches use a family systems approach which looks at the needs of the entire nuclear family (and sometimes extended family, e.g. grandparents, adult children) and each individual’s effect on all the other members.